Advice Corner

Life lessons I've learned and am still learning along the way...


How we make our marriage work...
There are many things I've learned in these past 7 years with my husband...probably too many to put in one blog post.  There are also many things I've thrown and words said that can never be taken back.  One of the most important things that I've learned, though, is that you can't just have a "work" relationship with your spouse for your love and marriage to grow and mature.  Preston and I have had kids since we've been married and we found out real quick that we needed alone time to make this thing work for us.  How does that look?  Well, for the past 5 years we have had a coffee time every morning for an hour.  Even when I was a pie baker I would get up early to spend that alone time with my husband...and if the children ever come out we would tell them to go back inside because this is our time.  This isn't a formula for every couple, it's just what works for us.  I actually started drinking coffee just to be able to have this time with my husband, Preston, but I've since switched to hot chocolate.  Sometimes we have nothing really to say, and we just sit next to each other in silence...but this time matters to us.  This is our theory...one day our kids will be grown, out of the house and possibly married...all the chaos that ensued while children were in the home will be a distant memory...and I want to know the spouse that I'm left with.  I want it to be the beginning of a new journey, not the death of my family.  I don't want to look back years from now when all the children are gone and life is starting to settle down and think, "Who the Hell is this man?".  So this is the marriage journey we have together...the give and take.  Today we started morning walks together before our coffee time...it was fabulous and made me feel refreshed and ready for the day.